Carpe diem and thus the moment
, for it offers opportunity. Opportunity to find people who share your reality, opportunity to make new friends, opportunity to look at life with new perspective, opportunity to be inspired and so much more. Everyone is different, embrace the variety, enjoy the randomness , enjoy the emotion.
Carpe diem and thus the moment
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I believe you cannot change anyone through bitching, complaining, invalidation, making a person wrong for what they believe, pointing out ,outpoints , telling people what they should believe, telling people how they should act . Some of the points above can be implemented under certain conditions only and then only very lightly. Change can happen when there is affinity, shared reality, good communication and of course as it all come together understanding. Many people do not understand completely the meaning of the above concepts. Which gives them a handicap in making positive changes in people. I took a course in understanding these concepts and it was so worthwhile. If interested in knowing more give me a call. Simple acknowledgements that a person exists or acknowledging something done well goes so far in creating reality between people. I think it subtly creates affinity between people. Most people are sensitive in what they believe and if you try to shake it to hard, discomfort and resistance sets in. But if you share their reality they will open up to you, become more your friend and be more open to you light handed suggestions. Fear and introversion will come, you must continue . The best way to pick yourself up and go again is to know where you where heading. Needed :Written goals, Needed: a real true determination you will get there. The goal needs to be specific. Easy to point out, easy to know when you have arrived. It must be constantly created, put there, looked at, and acted on Monitoring with Stats is good for it reinforces the above. Do it know attitude. By Hara Estroff Marano "Not all who wander are lost," they say, but for the great majority of us, having a road map for the future is a key element to well-being and success, however we choose to define it. This means setting goals for ourselves, and finding ways to achieve them. If you're a wanderer, it might be time to realize the boundless utility of setting goals. It's simply a fact: when people have goals to guide them, they are happier and achieve more than they would without having them. It's a brain thing. Achieving a goal you've set produces dopamine, a neurotransmitter responsible for feelings of pleasure. Reciprocally, dopamine activates neural circuitry that makes you eager to pursue new challenges. Goals provide focus. With no guiding vision or plan, people tend to drift. Goals provide a measuring stick for progress. Goals enhance productivity. They bolster self-esteem. And most of all, goals increase commitment, so you're more likely to achieve whatever you set out to conquer. While it's not a good idea to try to change everything at once, you can set goals in virtually any domain of your life, from your wardrobe to your church to your workplace. Of course, a thousand mile journey starts with the first small step. And whether we're embarking on the long trek of a mid-life career switch or the walk to the bedroom to finally organize that closet, it can be hard to gather up the motivation to make that initial step. While setting goals is in itself motivating, sometimes it's just not enough. Here are some tried-and-true ways you can begin to move toward achieving your goals, and maintain resolve when the going gets rough. Put your goals in writing. The act of writing down what you are going to do is a strong motivator. Writing down goals prevents you from leaving your goals vague. Be specific. Use action verbs. Let your goals have measurable outcomes. Specify completion dates. Also record what your reward will be for achieving the goal. Make a contract with yourself, then read it each morning and night. This will help you to be more committed your goal as each day passes. And while you've got the pen in your hand... Make a list of obstacles. Think of everything that might stand in your way. Then decide what you can do about each obstacle. Design a plan to reduce the influence of each obstacle and increase the chances that you will be successful in reaching your goal. List the benefits of achieving your goal. Knowing exactly what you will gain from reaching your goal is a strong motivator. Keeping my checkbook balanced will give me more spending money on the weekends. Walking a mile every morning will help me stay focused at work. Identify subgoals. Break down complicated plans into manageable chunks. Be specific about what has to be accomplished. Decide what you are going to do, and when. Make sure each step is challenging but achievable, and that you have a complete plan of action. Then write it on your calendar and review it regularly. Learn what you need to learn. If information or skill is keeping you from achieving your goals, determine ways to fill in the gaps, and build this into your action plan. Be willing to study and work hard to reach your goals. Think about how much time and effort will be required, and ask yourself whether you are really willing and able to do what is necessary. It is better to adjust your goals or your timetable than to proceed with a plan that is unrealistic. Enlist the help of others. Find someone, a coworker or friend, with whom you share a common goal. Get someone to go to the gym with you, or to quit smoking with you, or to share healthy meals with you. A partner can help you stay committed and motivated. Look for role models, people who have already achieved the goals you seek to reach. Ask them for advice and suggestions. Find how they got where they are, and incorporate what you learn into your plan. Visualize yourself having achieved each of your goals. The more real you can make your visualization, the better. Find a quiet place, visualize, write down your experiences afterward. Go through magazines and cut out pictures that represent your goal, then put them around the house. Provide constant reminders to yourself about what you're working towards. Describe your ideal life in the future. Write a few paragraphs describing what you have accomplished, and how your life is better as a result. Use the present tense as if it is happening right here, right now. This is another way of making your vision real. Get organized. When you are prepared and organized, you will feel better about your ability to reach your goals. Having information scattered in too many places makes you feel out of control and undermines motivation. Set up a filing system, set aside your workout clothes. Reward yourself each step of the way. Let yourself feel good about progress you've made. Treat yourself to rewards that will give you a lift as you accomplish each subgoal on your road to success. ~ ~ ~ Do It All in One Goal Achieving System Get organized, write down goals, visualize success, keep habits, create subgoals, manage your time, plan your day,...all in one software tool - GoalsOnTrack. Give it a try today. Find out more >> ~ ~ ~ Popular Blog Posts This Week ~ ~ ~ If you enjoyed this newsletter, please forward it to a friend or colleague. ....................... Copyright 2011 by GoalsOnTrack.com This e-newsletter is published once a week by GoalsOnTrack, a web-based goal setting and tasks management software program that helps you get things done and achieve life goals. Harry Che Founder & CEO at GoalsOnTrack.com Voice: 778-668-0386 Email: [email protected] Twitter: http://twitter.com/#!/GoalsOnTrack Web: www.goalsontrack.com True freedom in life will never be had or experienced unless you confront the things that you fear. We are in a trap of no compromise, we are in a trap of being victims, if only he , she , they or it, did not do something to me I would be fine and my life would not be so screwed up . I am most likely forever doomed no matter how positive I think. I try to be so kind and good but no,…….. I just get stepped on. And so I stop reaching and stay bitter. For I know if I try one more time, I fear, I will get hurt. With fear, there is no logic but only confront. It is like jumping off a cliff and knowing you will survive; which defies all logic.. The better your understanding of life, the better you can operate on truth, the better you can handle this fear. When you understand life, truly, you understand the methods used to pin it down and the methods to unpin it. If all this makes no sense it is because it is set up to be that way. It is like a type of propaganda to keep the masses in their place, to keep them controlled like prisoners in a prison. Only those who dare will find the road to Freedom. Because it takes guts. It takes guts to walk the road less traveled . The road less traveled is filled with haunts and ridicule. You are looked at as an outcast. Scorned and made fun of. Yet, if it was looked at closer, it is fear which drives this pompous and ignorant attitude. Where it comes from is a discussion of much greater magnitude. I am walking that road and hope that you can join me. Some people say those with the most toys win, I believe those who can be of help to their fellow man have greater satisfaction and are the most valuable people on the planet. My hat is off to those people who take up this crusade. Most all are looking to be great. Yet we need to be admired for who we are. but.......we need to be inspired to be greater than we are. With that inspiration a willingness will begin to take place and from that willingness we will be able to go to places we can only dream about.
I could say that i was sorry for not meeting your description of 'Perfect'
I Could Say that i was sorry for not wearing a pound of makeup on my face to attract guys. I could say that i was sorry for being myself instead of fitting in with the popular crowd. and I could say that i was sorry for not starving myself to be skinny. But if i said i was Sorry, I guess that would make me a liar. So i am sorry. But not for all of that. I'm Sorry that you Can't see that maybe Just Being who you want to be ; is better than all that. ♥ " You Were Born Original, Don't die a Copy." ♥ Open your eyes to what really matters
There is nothing more sacred than a shared reality Nothing better than shared laughter Nothing better than your favorite music Nothing more sacred than the affinity of a best friend Nothing more sacred than the touch of someone you love Nothing more sacred than the glow of admiration from someone you really care about Nothing more sacred than letting out the most colorful of emotions Nothing more sacred than being accepted as you are Nothing more sacred than to experience love What really matters has nothing to do with the” things” of this universe It has to do with what you cannot touch, but only feel It has to do with things you cannot own and so money cannot buy them It has to do with heart, with sprit, with love Open your eyes to what really matters Inspiration of this article goes to my Cousin’s daughter. Thanks so much Miss M One may be wise and old, but never forget you can also learn from someone young and inexperienced,
most forgotten is 1- experiencing the excitement of the first time…………….., 2 -the unseriousness of life…………………., 3-the sweetness of innocence ; and note this, 1-there is still so many things we have not tried……………., 2-we get way to serious about life……………………. , and 3- our pretense of fear in the world bars any possibility of wanting to ever experience innocence again . Take a different view point, and watch life come alive. By Leo Babauta One of the biggest challenges in trying to accomplish any personal goal is that we tend to put them off until tomorrow, or next week, in favor of more pressing matters at work and home. Unfortunately, tomorrow never gets here. If you want to accomplish a goal, you have to start on it today. Finding the time to take the steps necessary is the problem, of course, as we all lead busy and complicated lives, and when we do have time, we're too tired to do anything that requires energy or thought. We want to veg out in front of the TV, or take a nap. So how do you find the time for your personal goals? That's what reader Trin recently asked: "How to do you honestly make the time? I'm not even sure where to begin with my own goals, as I already feel I have to sacrifice something important to take care of me. I would really love your opinion, as a father of 6 children, what activities were cut out of your daily life in order to insert your personal goals?" I'm not going to be able to give an easy answer. There isn't a single little trick I can give you to find huge blocks of time where you can pursue all the goals you've ever dreamed of. It takes work, it takes commitment, it takes motivation ... but it can be done, without a doubt. I've done it - despite being married with six kids, and until recently working two jobs, I found time to train for a marathon, to work on eliminating my debt, to eat healthier, to declutter and become organized, to wake earlier, and more. How? Again, there was no one step that did it for me, but a series of them that add up over time: 1. One goal at a time. Often the problem is that we try to take on too many goals at once. We have a list of things we want to accomplish, spanning the spectrum from gardening to learning Italian to getting in shape. It can be overwhelming, and because of that we never start. Or instead, perhaps we start with a head full of steam, but then run out of steam quickly, because it's extremely difficult to maintain focus and energy (the two key ingredients in accomplishing a goal) for too many goals at once. Even two goals at once is difficult, if you aren't already running on autopilot for one of those goals. For now, focus on one goal at a time. Once that's on autopilot, you can go to the next one. Figure on at least a month per goal. 2. Make sure you really want it. It's not enough to say, "It would be nice to learn French" or "It would be cool to do yoga every morning". It has to be something you really want. Ask yourself why you want to achieve this goal, and how much you want it. Figure out your motivations. That's important to do early on, or you won't make time for it. 3. Make it your top priority. We all have multiple things to focus on in our lives, from school or work to family to errands to various goals and commitments and hobbies and civic activities. If we put all these focuses before our One Goal, we won't ever find the time for our goal. There's only so much time in the day. At some point, we've got to prioritize, and if we make our goal our top priority, we'll make the time. 4. Reduce your commitments. I'm a big fan of simplifying your life - and one of the first things you should do when simplifying is to make a short list of the 4-5 things that are most important to you, that you want to make time for, that you love and that bring you joy. I've said this before, but just to give you an example, my top things are spending time with my family, writing, reading, and running. Everything else is non-essential. Once you've made your short list, you should reduce some of the non-essential commitments. Is being a member of the Harley-Davidson club no longer bringing you joy and fulfillment? Gracefully bow out. If you reduce at least a few commitments, you'll now have room in your life for the things you want to do - including your personal goal. 5. Keep it simple. It's important not to make your personal goal too complicated. You don't want to have a huge list of things to do in order to accomplish your goal. You'll be overwhelmed. Instead, focus on a smaller sub-goal that will lead you to your bigger goal. If you have a goal to invest for retirement, for example, make your first goal simply to learn what you need to know about investing. Make your second goal to open the necessary account and transfer money. Then make it your goal to have regular, automatic contributions and not to touch those contributions. Another approach is to focus first on creating a habit that will get you to your goal. If your goal is getting in shape, for example, focus on forming the habit of walking each day (or running, or cycling, or whatever). Once you've formed that habit, focus on drinking only water. Then on eating fruits and veggies instead of junk snacks. And so on, until you've reached your goal. 6. Stay focused. One of the most difficult things when it comes to achieving goals is maintaining your focus on that goal. It's easy to become obsessed with something else, and when we lose focus, we suddenly stop making time for the goal. Instead, find ways to maintain that focus. Put a poster on your wall, or a printout on your fridge, or make your goal your computer desktop picture. Send yourself daily reminders. Tell others about it, in real life and on your blog, and have them ask you about it daily. 7. Block off time. OK, this is a crucial step. Maybe it should be No. 1 on this list, but I felt it important to lay the foundation with the steps above first. But once you've laid that foundation, you absolutely must block off time to work on your goal. Whatever time works for you - first thing in the morning, lunchtime, mid-afternoon, right after work, late at night. Try to schedule a time when you won't be interrupted by other "urgent" requests (meetings, calls, kids, etc.) and when you have good energy. For me, that's in the morning, as mid-afternoons are times when other things come up to interrupt your schedule (especially when I worked in an office) and early evening (right after work for most people) I tend to get a bit tired. You have to find the right block of time. Designate no less than 30 minutes, although really an hour is much, much better. Two hours isn't feasible for most people, but your schedule might be different. 8. Make it your most important appointment. That block of time you just scheduled has to be given the utmost priority. There are appointments we take seriously - a doctor's appointment, or an important meeting - and we will do everything we can to ensure that we make those appointments and are not late for them. "Sorry, I have a doctor's appointment at that time - can't take the conference call until a couple hours later." But when it comes to our time for working on our personal goal, we will often push it back because of other pressing things. Don't let that happen. Make that block of time on your schedule become sacrosanct, and never let it be violated. 9. Show that you're serious. Be fully committed. Tell as many people as possible about your goal, and the scheduled block of time that is sacrosanct. Write down your goal, and be specific. If you can't even write it down, you're not serious. Then write out a plan, with dates and actions. Think about obstacles, and write down your strategy for overcoming them. The plan shows you're serious. 10. Find your time wasters. In every person's life, there are things that can easily be cut out without making much of a difference. Things that waste our time without giving us much benefit. Things such as TV, video games, fun stuff online, going to bars, etc. If you can identify those time wasters, you can free up time for working on your goals. Remember, if it's not on your short list (No. 4 above), you can eliminate it. 11. Make it a part of your daily or weekly routine. This is important to keep the goal going for a long period of time. If it's a goal you can complete in a week, you don't need to do this step. But the most worthwhile goals are ones that take time to accomplish, and for those, you'll need to make it part of your routine. Some goals will need to be daily - say, drinking water, or exercise, or perhaps decluttering. Find a time in your daily routine where you will always do this activity, and don't let yourself drop it. Put it immediately after something that's already firmly ingrained in your routine - say, showering or brushing your teeth, or arriving at work - so that you won't forget to do it. For other goal activities, a weekly schedule would be better - say, making a weekly savings deposit or debt payment, or a weekly yoga class - put this on your calendar and have a reminder sent to you so you don't forget it. |
Mike Sakkestad
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