Just figured out the 2d( intimate relationship you have with another) it is not about you
It is all about the other person in the relationship and what you do as a couple. It has nothing to do with your dynamic one,.
Dynamic 1 is all about you it is what you want in your life, it is what you need for your body, it is what you want for pleasure, it is what you want in regards to fulfilling your dreams. It is all about you.
Now if you want to attract a particular person in you life you should think how can I be for that person. What would that person want from me and then you be it. So again, it is not about you, but what you can do for the other person. You may think about what you want in another, but it is backward. It is what you can provide for and give to another.
Lets look at how it can get twisted. You say you want someone to have a particular attribute. This is a first dynamic consideration. You should say what do I have to be to attract someone who I want .Lets say it is “I want them to be successful. It is what you want, this is dynamic one, so it will not work. Better is “how can I be to attract some one “who wants success” of course one answer is to be successful yourself. What do successful people have as traits? Then be it. Just because you are successful “so you think” does not mean you may have all the traits of being successful. There is a saying "people do not attract that which they want, but that which they are."
When you put that out, you may not get an exact match, but if you look closer there is a very good chance you may be overlooking this, by operating to much in your dynamic one and not really being and doing dynamic 2 which is putting forth all effort for the other and as a couple. You may be stuck to much in Dynamic1.
If you look at another truth, it is truly a gift to give and the greatest gift of all is the gift to give yourself. You will find truer happiness when you give than waiting to be given to. Again do not give any consideration to the first if you are operating on the 2nd, if both people work this way, there is a possibility of true bliss. This all assumes some basic attraction in the first place or a realization of reality, which increases affinity, which increases communication. This is another way attraction works.
But to make this attraction really grow it should work off the principle of the dynamic 2. A richer life can be attained rather than just working on dynamic1. Dynamic 2 creates love, affinity, intimacy for another it is not love for your self. That is Dynamic1. People get in trouble when they mix dynamic 1 and 2 up. They start demanding the other person buck up or operate like their dynamic 1. When really they have no right because it totally is not how you operate dynamic 2. Dynamic 2 again is all about contributing to the other person, it is not selfishly demanding they operate like you.
Now of course when this falls down is when each person demands of the other to operate on dynamic1 and neither operate off the principles of dynamic 2 . So in essence when both people can understand what dynamic 2 is about they can possibly have more success and a richer life. As it goes with sex it is not what you want but what you can offer your partner. It is never what you get. It is what you can give. What does he or she want etc. Then it is also what do you want as a couple. It is to understand the wants and needs of the other and supply it. It is not done as a rule or law but as wanting to do it. It should never be demanded of the other. What helps in this situation where maybe you feel your needs are not met (which again is operating dynamic1) is to give validation or acknowledgement to the other when they do meet your needs when they do make you happy, when you do feel the love, this tends to open the person up more to your wants but again remember this is not dynamic 1.
Kids.. yes, it is all about the kids, but the kids, when old enough, must also understand dynamic 2 in relationship to the family. It is what they can contribute to what is needed and wanted, it is never enforced, it is done with affinity, reality and good communication which will render understanding. It is about what they can do for the parents and the family as a whole team, then they can operate on the dynamic 1 and they will not get them mixed up.
When a company or business brings on people they do so for two reasons. To push power to the persons dynamic 1 and so that person can push power to this 3rd dynamic. So eventually the individual must understand the concept of dynamic 3, which is the group. To make dynamic 1 stronger one must operate also on dynamic 3. They must look at how can they contribute to the group all aside from any first dynamic thought. When you make the group strong the group will support you like you could never imagine. When you feel down the group builds you up, helps you be better, supports you against people pushing you down. It helps keep your mindset strong on dynamic1. A group has strength an individual does not have. It helps ward off think that could cave in the individual. It gives support that you can feel in regards to unity. When in a group it is not about dynamic 1. It is about helping the group and together as a group to make decisions to best forward the ideals of that group. When operating with the group you are able to utilize the power of the group, in dynamic 1 as a benefit.
The same is happening on dynamic 2, the other person is helping and giving to his partner. We can call this pushing power to the individual as it can manifest from dynamic 2 for dynamic 1, but when looking at this the dynamics are separate. When you flow power in and toward dynamics 2 and dynamic 3 it will eventually as a rule flow power back to you, but only when you keep your first dynamic separate. Doing this with the 3rd as well as the 2nd it comes back to giving. It is not about you on these dynamics 2 and 3. It is not what dynamic 2 and 3 can do for you it is what can you do for dynamic 2 and 3. Again do not demand dynamic 1 consideration from these dynamics. Like if you say I want this to be like this. I want this to make me happy. I want this to fulfill my life. I want this from you so I will not have problems. It is not about what you want from these other 2 dynamics it is what can you give. What can you provide. What can you do to give it more survival. What can you do to give it more happiness. What is the responsibility you are going to take to make it go right. When you give you give energy to dynamic 2 and 3 to flow and prosper and when you really give ,your side benefit is that you will prosper from that dynamic not by others giving to you but because you gave to it.